the joys of a large extended family...

or rather the pit falls of it. mainly if your the youngest.

im having a knees up for my birthday but sadly some memebers of my family dont seem to want to RSVP to it. how noice of them. not. im angry as one of them the line comming from my aunt (who is annoied that they havent RSVP'd) is "its their daughters birthday the day after" YEP I KNOW! but they should also know my birthday is the same friggin' day as my grandmothers. i didnt get much of an 18th because she turned 80. deal with it. i asked the kids to come as well - so if they wanted they could bring her long (as well as their other two) but NOPE thats too much effort. maybe thats a tad bitchy but i cant friggin' help it. this year we've already had a 30th (NYE) and a 60th (end of feb) and now my 21st (end of march) people cant be bothered. i feel a little like i've been brushed aside becuase people dont want to travel. YET this is the closest thing to 90% of the family. as apposed to 6-9 hours travel time (each way) they'd have two hours (all up) travel time...which isnt that bad (if you're like DH and I who traveled to the other two birthdays with DJ - who is now just over 13 months old)

i know i should have known this was going to happen. every time i've planned a birthday thing its turned to shit. people ignore it. cant come, wont come or some times just lie and then not show up. my 18th i wanted something small with my good friends at the time. i got shafted to a club becuase (sadly) my folks are too 'old' to deal with that (yet two years before my older sister got a full blown piss up ) most people didnt bother. my 19th well that just kinda slid on by. my 20th? almost no one rembered but that was due to DJ and all the issues we had (the day after my birthday we got admited to hospital with failure to thrive and i spend the next 4 days in hell) this year? i'd hoped it'd be much, much better. ya know last of the grand kids turning 21, the family may, ohh i dont know give a shit? nope. clearly some dont. its just me after all. why would they bother? yes a cousin of mine is expecting her first. umm her EDD is the day after mine. so if one more person tells me "how hard it is" for her i'll fuckin' scream. she's 26 weeks like i am. i worked until i was 31 weeks i think and the only reson i stopped? i could no longer reach the front of a case in the Deli. i've also got a 13 month old that hasn't had the easiest start to life and yet we manage to do thease things. which bugs me alot. im angry that they cant manage to send a freaking SMS or even a phone call. they surely arent busy at 9pm, 10pm at night? or even 7am in the morning! but i once again guess that im not all that important..

but needless to say if/when i see these cousins of mine i'll be one angry women who wont be trying all that hard to hide it. if they want to ignore me fine...but i never said i'd be nice about it.