sometimes i wonder...

i love my PIL most of the time.

but right now they're really bugging me.
they're older. FIL is 72 and MIL 69. thats all well and good.

FIL has a datsun 120y that i will call the "bomb" from here on in. its road worthy but its a "tired" car. he is the second owner of the car. DH is 31 and the car has been 'in the family' longer then that. the car has had its fair share of work done to do (rear ended twice and a bonet thats been dodgedly re-spraied by FIL. now FIL wants to "clean the car up" to keep it looking good. but at his age its not that easy. DH gave him *his* datbat (looks 110% better then FILs!) so that this bomb would be able to be taken off the road and cleaned up - rust fixed, respray pannles and just get it running right. that good. DH has been off work for 6 weeks. and FIL picked last weekend (just been) to start this work. meaning DH has been there working on the car. in that time FIL has put the rear end back on twice - once because he wanted to reverse the car (into his gararge) and once because it was "in the way" :o how that helps DH do the work (so taking the back end OFF three times :wall: ) i will never know. DH is over it. he wants the car gone and so do i. but FIL is the kind of man who wont.let.go of things. it annoies me (selfish i know) that DH is there working on this car when he could be at home - helping me and doings stuff HE wants to do around the house. but he is helping FIL out instead. i also think that FIL has no real clue about the latter stages of being UTD - let alone running after a bub.

and that brings me to MIL. she's a lovely caring women. always pottering about. helping out when she can. minus thease two times. the first one was my 21st - her and FIL went away and came back the day of my 21st. only to tell me they'd be "late" (it started at 7pm they got there near-er to 8pm) for what reason i dont know! they where home by 2pm :wall: and now this time. um EDD is sunday. MIL and FIL where meant to be taking DJ while i'm in labour. as a) they're closer then my folks and b) i trust them more. but oh, no she's taking off on a holiday (saterday through to tuesday) with a friend of hers. :o why? i dont know. i told her not long after we hit 20 weeks that we'd like for them to have DJ. then about two maybe three weeks ago she tells us "ohh im going away for a few days with my friend ____" o-k MIL. what do i say to that? i just smiled and told her to have fun that 'd likely go over. but thats not the point. im annoied (selfish i know) that she's happy to go away around my EDD - so that means i have to worry about who'll have DJ - she may miss the first few days of a NEW grandchilds life and i also just want to say to her that i'm NOT happy she's going away. why couldn't she have made it for 3 weeks time? part of me thinks its because she's all funny about DH and I haveing two babies in two years (she didn't tell her sisters until i was 25 weeks along and her brother until i was 30 and people who live next door to her until last weekend?!?!) so im just grumpy that she may not be here when i need her. and DH and I both agree we can't leave DJ with FIL - he can't handle him on his own. and my folks can't eather. not since dad had his knew knee put in!

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG its bloody annoying.